To the attention of:

Barack Obama, US President;
Tom Corbett, Governor of Pennsylvania;
US Senators from Pennsylvania: Patrick J. Toomey, Robert P. Jr. Casey;
US Representatives from Pennsylvania: Allyson Y. Schwartz, Bill Shuster, Chaka Fattah, Charles W. Dent, Christopher P. Carney, Glenn Thompson, Jason Altmire, Jim Gerlach, Joseph R. Pitts, Kathleen A. Dahlkemper, Lou Barletta, Mark S. Critz, Michael F. Doyle, Michael G. Fitzpatrick, Patrick Meehan, Robert A. Brady, Tim Holden, Tim Murphy, Todd Russell Platts;
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My daughter’s behavior and her course of actions grew increasingly aggressive. Thinking about the abuse she had to live with was not acceptable to me, it was scary to hear her ask for my help and I knew that abuse was the reason for her behavior changes. I went to my baby’s pediatrician for advice. She directed me to the hospital to get it documented. I did that twice. The first time I went was because my baby was acting out some pretty alarming  behavior. My daughter was standing by my side looking into a mirror she yelled and was very frightened. She repeated to me “mom do you see her?”  I observed her behavior, it was alarming to me. I asked my daughter what was wrong. She said mom do you see her? I said who baby?  She said “mayonna, she’s got a gun and she wants to kill me.” The person she saw shooting herself was herself. Of all the abuse that I have witnessed I was not prepared to deal with the thought of her hurting herself.  For her father to reject the fact that our daughter was hurting inside from him and others was angering me. It angered me more that he wouldn’t recognize the harm that was being caused from his own children from another woman. Since he didn’t want to help his daughter I sought after the help for her. She was to be seen by three dr. in a series of unfortunate circumstances. There are trained professionals out there but they can’t be utilized if the other parent refuses the treatment. He was afraid that his daughter would tell them the truth and then he would lose his other children. He fought diligently to avoid the professionals that I had lined up to help my daughter. He went as far as to say that I coerced my daughter into saying all the bad things she has said about her father and the people that was hurting her. The more I tried to protect her from the abuse the more rejection I received from children and youth.

 I sought out a case worker to help identify the abuse and receive protection for me and my daughter. The women who came to my house as a representative to the agency were bennesa macardo. She was nice and friendly, she acknowledged my daughters verification of the abuse and told me that everything would be fine. Court day arrived, I finely thought it would all be over. No more tears, no more threats no more strange alarming behavior form my daughter, it was all going to end. Nothing prepared me for what was about to happen. The women who were supposed to protect my daughter testified that she did not feel that there was any concern for abuse projected by the baby’s daddy.  Mary jachovich, supervisor of my case worker three days later lied in to protecting her employee. You have lied to protect a lie in the courts, because I questioned your ability to see the truth. Your anger provides me the answer. I was told by C.Y.S. supervisor, if you don’t stop seeking out documentation for abuse I will grant custody to daddy. Oppps, she screwed up in her anger at the hospital, she corrected her words and said I will suggest to the court that daddy receive custody. Who has the power here? No matter what I tell you towards their approach to this case, their decisions and corrupted policies will not change. So many lies and no honesty to themselves or our children. Children and youth have a political partnership with the court system. Question is, does it go all the way to the Supreme Court? Does mother supreme safeguard over each level to assure they protect the order and power of their agency even if they are wrong? You bet they do. That is why a lawyer is unwilling to attack the moralities of the agency. There is too much fault in the system to protect one from abuse. A lawyer is unwilling to seek retribution because they will lose contribution.

With all the pain and injustice to the parent that had lost a child or the child who has lost a parent, retribution justifies the actions of the C.Y.S. Agency. They have made decisions knowingly towards families that have been victimized and the victimization continues by their inability to say they are wrong. The court depends on the agency to keep order on families who can’t live civil, but at the price to whom? The lawyer that I had received at a pro-bono price due to my finances was not working for me. I was told that she was the best around to handle children’s cases because she worked side by side with children and youth. So what is the problem with that? You would think that this is a dream team. It could be if in the case it where C.Y.S. on your side. I will have to prove without a reasonable doubt that children and youth are wrong.

I have been under attack to save face for me and my daughter.  I didn’t find out there was a conflict of interest with my lawyer until my second trip to the hospital.  Why did she continue to represent me knowing that there is a predisposition in the outcome of my case. Several things stuck out when speaking to my lawyer, the first time consultation with her the first thing she asked was “so, what are you looking to get out of this?” I replied custody. She replied “that will never happen” then I knew. I realized that this women’s best interest was for herself and her reputation and the reputation of the agency she worked for.  I have been threatened by c.y.s. to step down from protecting my daughter.  These where detestable people, some bad people who didn’t like to be inconvenienced with interruption in there way of being in control. No wonder they believed the daddy, he exuded control.

Remember this, C.Y.S. can’t be stop once they have made a decision against you.  No one can stop children and youth from shielding an abuser from your child. However if you cross their power to rule they will take all your credibility, then your child, and you have nothing to defend yourself with. I usta think highly of children and youth. I called out children and youth to help me protect my daughter so many times in fact that they said I cried wolf and my cries will no longer be heard. I saw that my daughter was hurting, others have testified seeing her in defensive situations with her daddy.  C.Y.S. was sucked into the charm of an abuser who knew how to minimize his appearances as an abuser by projecting himself as a victim. My babies father most definitely new how to hurt me, it wasn’t hard for him to take my baby and never let me see her again. He was backed by the vary people I went to for help. My baby is being detained from me because they felt remorse for my baby’s daddy. He cried to be protected from me.

C.Y.S. promote levels of abuse that are acceptable to their polices. There is no abuse acceptable in my guiding principle as mother. C.Y.S does not have the Childs best interest written into their policy.  Their policy is to determine the stereotype of an defective parent, then isolate the parent from that child no matter the consequences to the child.  The policy is to ensure the Decisions C.Y.S. make stand solid. The  involvement of the exploitations by the agency and their court are united. By defending your parental rights, intimidation is circulated by their unity.  Decision to protect their authority and credibility to the agency comes from court. It’s time to break it down tear it apart and standup to those who are wrong. I didn’t stop defending my baby and now she’s gone. When you have nothing, you have nothing to lose.

 If I had been abusive to my child like my baby’s daddy is to his women and his children, there would have been no conflict between us. We would have hurt our child and no one would have stepped in.  Sometimes children and youth get it wrong. Since they elected not to undue their wrong because of the embarrassment it will cause them, it is as set in stone, I will never be able to defend or prove my case. So my daughter and I both lose,  c.y.s. get another successful win and abuse still goes unchecked.

 Are they implying that I am causing more damage to her by defending her accusations towards her father and the abusive people around  her. My daughter and I were inseparable. The bond we have developed was amazingly strong and we both felt secure together. I knew that her father and her family was not as concerned about her education and well-being as I was. Just ask his children. His way of helping his children was to call them names like your dumb, idiot, jerk off.  My own baby came home from visitation and called me a stupid bitch. I asked her why she said that, she said her dad calls me that all the time. I know that to be the truth because when we were still together he referred to his ex-wife as jerk off. His own kids eventually started to do the same. They hated there mother in part by  the hate their father pushed on them. They felt anger towards their mother because their mother abandoned them.  She kicked him out and handed her children over to us a month later after we started dating. Why can’t children and youth see the signs. Why do they pray on innocent people to put their power of control out their? They have made me an example. Made to show others that they are backed by court.  Whatever decisions I have made to protect my children it did not warrant punishing me from my daughter. Whatever their defenses is I know I can defend and prove that they are wrong. If I prove that they are wrong do you think I will get my daughter back? Do you think I will get an apology for my discomfort and the discomfort of my children and family. Will my daughter get compensated for their crooked policy and aggression towards my pain and the pain of my family? I JUST WANT MY BABY BACK>>>>>>>

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I am new at this my husband just moved out after 18 years i have 3 kids and i dont know what to do i have always been a stay at home mom and its hard for me to get a job .. we are living in our house that we been paying for and i like to be able to keep it is there anyone that help me ?

Hello

I don't know if they give the kind of loans you need but check out

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I hope that helps you and I wish you the best

Hugs

Starshine

Hello I have seen many here and know of a few who have lost their homes to foreclosure. Check this out in attempts to save your home but view it in internet explorer

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Wishing you the best

Starshine

I'm really not sure what I am spose to be doin here so please bare with me untill I figgure it out THANKS. I found this page when I was searching for any kind of program that could help me save my home in less than 30 days. My story is extensive so I'll go put it in/on my blog. Before I do this is a quick peek into my world....My feiance and I are about to go into forclorsure and loose our home. We built this home with the inharritance that he recived when his dad passed away. Our home & his pick-up are what he got when he lost his dad.

i can understannd what you ar going through ther is always a way out we have to find the path. in life try but we have to see what is in the way and get through the obsticleyou can make and i hope and pray for you want to talk i'm here.

For those that can count the blessings as well as the losses there is always hope and thus, survival. Those that are unable to achieve the balance, seem to drown in their own hopelessness. Balance is always better. Do the gods tell you to find your voice?

Greetings! This is my first posting here. This has been a very difficult year in so many ways and at the same time it has been a year of many blessings. I can't write about the difficulties without mentioning the blessings. The economy as well know is still in the tank. States, the nation and corporations are all struggling. Budgets have been cut and everyone is cautious. For someone who is self employed this spells "bad news". The phone stops ringing and the e-mail inbox is full of junk mail, there are not requests for my services. I am a performing artist (dance, music and storytelling), educator and consultant for non profits and my work is about peace, justice, creativity and diversity. As much as people want and need these qualities in their lives at this time they are willing to forgo them because of the economy. However, it is not completely a dry well. Currently I am in Brazil where I am working with a colleague who wants to bring creativity that builds community to her small town in Southern Brazil. This is very fulfilling and satisfying work that warms the heart and gives me the energy to get up in the morning.
In April this year I lost my Dad. Even though he had been sick with cancer for 6.5 years there was no cushioning the pain that went through my body when I got the phone call from my sister, two words "Daddy's gone" and the waterworks started. I made my way home and for the next week went through the emotional roller coaster of saying goodbye. This was a huge financial hit, further putting a dent in an already empty tank. While home at the funeral I met a long lost love and even though I was not home to find romance, I realized that even though I had not seen her for 23 years I was still in love. Also while at the funeral I saw my Granddaughter for the first time. She was born exactly a month before her Great Grandfather passed ... they didn't meet in person ... but I am sure they passed each other beyond the curtain where life ends and begins. Pain and blessings. I have since returned home to Africa to be with my Mom and Sister as we go through this time of loss and reflect on the amazing legacy that our father left for us. Needless to say this has been a further strain on an already strained fiscal situation. While home on this second visit I got to play with both my grandchildren, help my Daughter and Son in law navigate a rough patch in their marriage and rekindle a 23 year dormant relationship. I am blessed, but the tears have been plenty, laughter is present and I have not lost my faith or hopeful outlook. I just wish the phone would ring a little more often and that my inbox had more request for my services than offers for viagra. thank you for reading and I wish you a wonderful week.

You are not alone if you need to talk I am here.

Its been almost 10 months now and coming upto a year in October. After the attack I continued as I had to for my sons sake. My career hit hight shortly after the attack which was extremly difficult I did not want him to win.I had already lost so much My self, spirit , self confidence,self as I could not relate to the person I was als reactions from family have become a major issue as they could not deal with what happend and chosen to reject me.Attitudes need to chance Glamour Model, prositute or whatever you do no one says " come put drugs in my drink do they".They also don't realise what it does to a person who has suffered rape. also suffered injustice. I moved forward from being a victom however after the injustice I became one again my whole world shattered. Now jobless no confidence and weight gain the loss of self has reappeared. Currently having hypnotheropy and trying to free myself of these emotions.A once Bubbly outgoing confident girl has disappeared need to get her back, do the attackers realise that they dont just hurt a girl but kill the spirit they once was???

Curley,

It appears that you are in possesion of "The Secret".  Bless you for sharing information about "The Source" with Nancy, hopefully some of it will sink in with her and others.  The concepts are so simple yet so hard too at the same time for us to phathom it is ironic to me.

I wanted to thank you for taking the time of typing up the elequant response you posted, may everyone take a few moments and absorb it's wisdom and try to fully comprehend what awsome lifelong gift you have bestowed upon them.

Blessings,

FLGal

comment to Curley:---Thoughts like your post run through my mind constantly and I understand my thoughts but am unable to put them into words. You have a gift Curley, a gift of communication through the written word. Your words are so unique and make the reader think and reread your words until finally the light bulb goes on and the AHA! moment occurs. Thankyou for your inspiration and all that you share to help us on our journeys. sincerely sheshe030

Nancy,

I am very proud to say that most of my prayers have been answered over the years. My faith is always first in all situations, for my self and my family. I often ask the angels of the heavenly father to watch over my children and grand children and keep them safe and guide them the right direction to return to our heavenly home.... 

Each night we always say thank our heavenly Father for all the blessings we recieved each and every day, be it food on the table or gas in our truck, hay for the horses, safety of our family, etc.. that his will be our will,  that our prayers be answered according to his time and his will.

I learned at a young age that our time is not always his time and what we ask is not always what we truly need, but there are times our prayers are answered according to our will and we are allowed to learn a lesson.

I have also ask to pray giving thanks and also putting every thing in his hands  and according to his will, my life is much better, less kayoss, less worries, more peace with in my spirit.   I will add you to my prayer list asking that you will be able to listen with your heart and grow in spirit. That you willo have good in your life.

When there are negative thoughts in your mind replace them with other thoughts even if it is a place you enjoy being or a favorite poem, just get rid of the negative in your thoughts and environment... Hang in Hang on , Let the Creator take over.....

Joshua,

I would like to add:

When one trust in the Creator and gives all the problems to him and KNOWS that he will take care of it all and main tains that trust, All will be as it should be in the Creators time and space... 

OUr church believes in Uncoditional faith in Jesus Christ and service to others as our Father taught us during his walk on Earth. Either of these can be a challange if you allow it to be.. I jokingly say i have a ' God Bag' for my worries and problems, after which making my deposit of problems i am obliged to no longer worry about it... I dont. I have less greyhair, a positive attitude that all will get done in the Lords time. It does. 

So as long as My Father is in control of things as i have ask him to do, why should i worry?  My faith says, follow him in his path, obey the rules, Love unconditionally, and all is well and shall be well.. Even in the hard times we live in now........Blessings to all ......................Cherokeeladyaz

Do not believe that your problems are bigger than God's love. Do not believe that you are alone. He knows your dilemas and he wants to bring you comfort. "Be still and know I am God".... that is the message he gave us in Joshua.

Look, I know about struggles, I understand what it means to want to give up. I have been suicidal, addicted, lost, depressed,......... Yes, you are not the only one.

But just realize, that no matter what you are going through, God has the final answer.

Lay down your cross, lay down your addiction, give praise to the Lord.

Those whom put their trust in the Lord will renew their strength.

AMEN

I look forward to hearing more from you.  Its good to hear a message of hope, encouragement, and perhaps information.

Every now and again you meet a person who is just so amazing, and so wonderful, they impact your life without even trying.  They leave foot prints behind that make you smile when you remember.  We lost such a man today.  He was a man who I always remember as smiling, full of laughter, and just plain nice.  He was a WW2 vet, he had lost his leg, but that did not slow him down.  He was even prone to jokes about his leg.  He leaves behind family and friends who will miss him terribly including me. 

He taught me to cherish the good times, laugh through the bad times, and always walk forward in faith with my head high.  He taught me that life is full of challenges that we have to face head on, and situations we have to make the best of.  He taught me that we cannot always choose the cards we are dealt, but we can choose how we react to them.  He taught me that life is truly defined by ourselves and not our circumstances.  He taught me to own my decisions, and to own the consequences of them good or ill.  He taught me so much, and now he's with God I am sure.  I will miss him, dearly.  He left his foot prints in my life, and the lessons he taught will live on through me and my passing them to my children.

Rest in peace - you've earned it.

cassidy is 11, colton is 9 and chloe is 3.

thank you so muh.

Michigan is hard hit for sure. I will be happy to send a card to you guys. Send me the kid's name and ages and I'll even have my little ones send yours a picture or note.

Welcome to the Internet, Opportunities are rising, and so is change.  Be prepared for good change, and change for the worse.  It's coming.

We are carving out our future with every click. Can you imagine that?  Something so small as a click on your computer carving out tomorrow.  Well, it is.

There is a secret to this madness.  And a profit to be made.

We can even help each other.

I know how many people there are struggling, especially at this time of year.  That is why i am asking for prayers, maybe a few christmas cards to show my kids people out there aren't all like the person who stole my whole 2 week paycheck, and if you can find it in your heart to include a gift or money for my children i would appreciate it.  they have lost soo much this year from their home, their grandmothers, their grandfather, and now their father.  most days they fear they will lose me also due to all this stress and strain.  we can be reached at (906)884-6959 or Rhonda Heikkinen, 811 Conglomerate St., Ontonagon, MI 49953.  Like I said, anything, even a card would be greatly appreciated.

I am not a widow, but I know what they go through especially in my part of the world.

I am trying to seek help (financial and othr forms of support) for widows in my home church here in Nigeria, in Africa.

I will appreciate any help or direction that I get from everybody.

Thanks.

My e_mail address is dolaagboola@yahoo.com.

Money is the root all evil and money is to pay bills not asking for much

but i know you will get your blessing sooner than you think.

Never give up help is on the way.

The LORD don't give us what we want he give us

what he want's us to have  but when that day comes

it will put so much joy in your heart.

you pray for me i will pray for you. 

Hi AidPage Community,

Boy am I glad I found you. I'm writting on behalf of my mother-in law ever since she lost her husband she just hasnt been able to get back on her feet.  I'm new to the family but I'm willing to help out. she is in desperate need of financial help.  Lump sum help. Between myself and my husband who are just starting out we will be willing to make restitution, monitaritly and through labor, what ever help we recieve. Please respond immediately she is facing the loss of her house and she has already ran out of time she is in bankruptcy.  You can E-mail me at julieacuatzil@hotmail.com

                                     Thank You and God Bless You.

My heart goes out to you and every family who has loved ones that are away and fighting for our right to be..  I know in times like these that is hard to hear.. I can tell you I KNOW you have a stairway of prayers for you, your family and your loved one from all of us...

God Bless you and just remember this... Your loved one may not be here in human form....But they NEVER leave you, they are with you and lives inside you.

this was awesome... thank all of you for reaching out to me...it meant alot to me...i will get back to you all later i just can't write right now...but thank you and God bless

robin

Who Knew,

These words you have written are precious.  Absolutely beautiful.

Thank you for sharing such an inspirational message.

God bless you,

ekikaseven

Hi Robin,

Sometime when we lose a loved one it is too painful to talk about that person.  I agree with you, I'm sure this is the case for your mother-in-law.  Perhaps, seeing the kids reminds her of her son, and at this time bring about pain.  I know this is painful for you and your kids because it is at this time you need to reach out to her in order to have a piece of your husband to hold on too (as well as to be closer to her).

It is said that time heals all things.  This has not necessarily been my experience when I lost a loved one.  However, I have noticed that after time (alot of time) the pain has lessoned.  However, everyone handle grief differently.  Not only that, that same person will grieve for one 'loss' differently from another 'loss'.

It is my prayer for you and your family that God will take the pain away, leaving you only with the good memories.  I pray that your family will unite during this time as well.

God bless you,

ekikaseven

I have read your post and sadly, this is all I could come up with. I apologize, but it just feels so inadequate, If you choose to delete it, I wll not be offended.

What do you say? How can you help someone grieve a loss so profound? No word seems right, every touch seems to cause pain. Every memory, a flood of emotions so strong, it rips at our heart. We wait to hear them come home. To feel their nearness, their touch, their breath – we feel only emptiness inside. A hollow, a black void, we think can never be filled.

We relive every moment, every nuance, every subtlety that they were over and over again until the pain drives us away. We think there will never be another sunrise, another day, another life without them. If we could have just one more day…

Would we change anything? Their little irritating ways that we complained about? The lack of communication between us? The last fight we had and never apologized for? Would we change how we looked, how we behaved? Would we love more and fight less? Would we appreciate more and complain less? Would we look deep into their eyes and see their soul and know we were destined to part again one day?

A bond has been broken. Tears flow, never ending. A life has been extinguished too soon. Taken too early from this world and thrust into another so far beyond our reach, we grieve for our loss and we fail to see their gain. They feel no pain. No sorrow, only joy. Life beyond our expections. We cannot fathom what lies beyond our realm. But they do and they will wait patiently for our arrival. Until then, we will face our lives here, the emptiness, the bitterness, the defeat, the joy, the love, the humanity of it all. Until that day, when we pass over and the cycle begins again…

if someone just wants to write with encouraging words that is much needed also...
how long does it take before the pain goes away of loseing a spouse and a brother...
my mom and other brother are grieving and hurting and my mother in law does not want to talk to me because she is dealing with the loss of her son my husband by not talking about it....i hurts her too bad and all i want to do is talk to her about him and feel closer but she has only talked with me for about 5 minutes since it all happened...
i have his kids that he gave me and i would hope and pray that she would want to be with them some....
any way ..
merry christmas

Another one , for people in the military :

THE SOCIETY OF MILITARY WIDOWS (SMW) was founded in 1968 by Theresa (Tess) Alexander to serve the interests of women whose husbands died while on active military duty, of a service-connected illness, or during disability or regular retirement from the armed forces 

http://www.militarywidows.org/

Based on Life Events

Another way to qualify for pro bono financial planning assistance is by considering your current financial situation. If you are the victim of a disaster, have recently experienced the loss of a loved one, lost your job, experienced serious illness, or are deeply in debt (or considering or recovering from bankruptcy), you may be eligible for pro bono assistance.

http://consultaplanner.org/public/index.html